LOST SOUL: Civil Wars Sought

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A civil society demands civil discussion. When civil discussion ends, civil war ensues.  Or is it, when civil war ends, civil discussion can begin?  Said it once and The Heretik will say it again.  Civil war? Nothing isCivil about war.  That phrase must have been invented by the first and greatest Oxy Moron of all time.  The Heretik today would like to know what topics are most worthy of discussion for this new series.
Your comments are requested !

Here is a possible example served up by from that slaughterhouse of cows sacred: Preemptive Karma:

The very well written blog run by Trish Wilson has been doing a series of posts on custody issues. Specifically the rights of men and women to have custody of the children in the event of a divorce. . . .

A couple of commentors on the blog have made statements that to me, are troublesome.  This is the most egregious, in my opinion:

Well I consider ANY father that attempts to get custody from a child's mother as abusive, by definition, UNLESS he does it because abuse or neglect is involved...

I strongly disagree with this statement.
Carla at PreEmpitive Karma has boldly taken the above stand.  Where do you stand and why?

Comments

[spocko]

I find rigid stereotypical roles are so last century. Times have changed. For the better. If I want to spend time with my children while my wife works then the biggest issues is are the children getting a nurturing, healthy experience.

Saying that men can't take sole care of the children is a silly as the idea that women can't work in any career that doesn't involve child care.

[The Heretik]

Couldn't agree with you more, friend. Say hello to Mrs. Spocko. And remember, Bush cares a lot about this. As far as kids go, I take my mantra from him:Is our children learning? Oy, is our children indeed.

[Linnet]

I think any parent that tries to take away complete custody from another parent who is non-abusive is wrong. If both parents are non-abusive and non-neglectful, joint custody seems like the best bet.

Sadly I think it's probably true that many parents, usually fathers, are neglectful. (Not all or even most fathers, of course).